This note is about getting past bad luck in relationships. It's not about blaming yourself.
The world is full of things we can't control, including the fate of relationships. However, what we do have is influence.
To improve your chances of relationships turning out more as you'd like, you need to learn more about your powers of influence - while recognising that the aim is not to control a story that someone else has an equal part in. Equally important is not blaming yourself, if things end in a way you're not happy with - which will only reinforce other unhelpful beliefs.
But how can you avoid blame, if you accept the influence you have on how a relationship turns out?