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feeling lost

I'm completely lost when it comes to relationships. Perhaps there is something wrong with me?

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  • I'm afraid to share my feelings. I clam up rather that let someone know I care, feel attraction, or that I want to know them better.

    • I feel ashamed or guilty for the way I feel. I think my feelings are inappropriate/ wrong/ sinful/ impure/ bad/ etc.

    • It would be so humiliating if they let me know I didn't mean anything to them, if I shared how I felt.

    • I know that sharing strong feelings directly can make others uncomfortable, so I just hope they'll guess without me having to spell it out.

    • I'm afraid they'll take it the wrong way. Just because I feel like this today, doesn't mean I'll feel the same way forever.

  • It's not that I'm afraid, I just don't know what to do or say to have an intimate personal relationship.

    • I find it hard to tell when someone is interested in me, or when I do get an idea I don't know how to react.

    • I really struggle with going from intimate conversation or 'just friends' to physical intimacy. It just seems awkward most of the time.

    • I don't know how to start a close relationship with someone without having sex soon after we start dating, but it always seems to end badly.

    • The first stages are OK, I just don't know how to build a meaningful relationship that lasts.

  • I can't stop thinking about the past. I get so sad or angry sometimes. I don't see things ever changing.

    • I think because I was hurt so much in the past I must be a bad person, or that I deserved to be treated like that.

    • Maybe there's just no justice in the world, but I have to try and understand why what happened, happened.

    • Sometimes I see the person I'm with is just like a person from my past. That's when the relationship falls apart.

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